Gratitude to Namo Sakyamuni Buddha!
Gratitude to the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva!
Gratitude to all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas from ten directions and three periods of time!
Gratitude to the Dharma protectors!
Gratitude to the benevolent Master Jun Hong Lu!
Gratitude to the fellow Buddhist practitioners!
It was because of my child that I came into contact with Buddhism. At 28 months old, my son had just learned to walk, couldn’t speak, but could call “mama” and “papa.” Elderly relatives said that some children may experience delays in various aspects of development, but as long as they can hear and vocalize, it’s considered normal. Coincidentally, three neighbors also mentioned their children were late in development, only learning to walk at 4 years old. At that time, I foolishly thought everything would be fine as the child grows up.
It wasn’t until a visit to the hospital for a check-up, where I mentioned the child’s condition to the doctor, who advised us to have him examined at a larger hospital. After consulting doctors at the municipal hospital, they diagnosed it as cerebral palsy. Doctors at Guangzhou Second Hospital diagnosed it as delayed development. The Children’s Hospital mentioned it was poor brain development.
Regardless of the results of the examinations, ultimately, it comes down to sensory integration therapy for rehabilitation. At that time, there was still a glimmer of hope in my heart, thinking that things would get better once he started school and interacted more with other kids. However, after he started kindergarten, he began exhibiting behaviors of hitting other children and himself, almost every day. He would bite his hands severely, sometimes causing bruising. Every time I went to pick him up, I was filled with dread, knowing that I would likely receive complaints from the teachers about either my child hitting himself or other children. He couldn’t express himself, and he was subtly encouraged to leave 3 different kindergartens. During that time, I was constantly shuttling between rehabilitation centers and kindergartens. We tried all the methods suggested by doctors and rehabilitation therapists, and we had tried both traditional Chinese acupuncture and Western medicine, yet by the time he was 6 years old, he still couldn’t manage his own bodily functions.
I felt like my son would never improve. Many around me thought I was overthinking it and believed that he would eventually grow out of it. The most difficult part of the whole ordeal was acceptance. Witnessing him hitting and biting himself filled me with immense stress and helplessness. Sometimes, when I was angry and saw him engaging in these behaviors, I couldn’t control my emotions and ended up hitting him. Under this prolonged suppression, I found myself either frequently exploding in anger and then deeply regretting it, or constantly on the verge of tears, unable to make sense of anything. This led to insomnia, and I felt like I was on the brink of a breakdown at any moment. Both my child and I suffered from these emotions. I went to see a psychologist who suggested medication to prevent me from falling into depression if things persisted. After seeing the psychologist, I realized that medication alone couldn’t solve these problems for me.
I decided to visit a temple to pay respects to the Bodhisattva. When I heard the recitation of the Eighty-Eight Buddhas Great Repentance, tears streamed down my face involuntarily. At that time, I didn’t even know it was the Eighty-Eight Buddhas Great Repentance. I just prayed in my heart, asking the Bodhisattva to save my child. I really didn’t know what to do! Gratitude to the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva for responding to my cries of pain and helplessness. Soon after, I saw a fellow Buddhist practitioner posting a video of Master Lu’s Totem Reading on my phone. I added him on WeChat and sought his advice. Later, he generously sent me a counter, a Buddhist scripture recitation device, and materials from the Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door, all free of charge.
I began reciting Buddhist scriptures and delving into Buddhism in Plain Terms. In Book 1, Chapter 37 of Buddhism in Plain Terms, titled “Having no attachment, rectifying one’s behavior”, it discusses the profound impact of distress and helplessness on an individual’s spiritual journey. It explores why individuals often turn to Buddhism during their darkest moments. It explains that during times of extreme suffering and despair, individuals are more inclined to release their attachments and delve into their true nature, allowing their innate Buddha nature to emerge and embrace authentic Buddhism. Conversely, when individuals are comfortable and free from troubles, they may neglect their spiritual cultivation. However, during times of utmost distress and helplessness, offering assistance can guide them towards Buddhism, as they instinctively seek the Buddha deep within their hearts.
Master Lu’s words really resonate with me deeply. If it weren’t for encountering Buddhism, I dare not imagine what I would be like now. Gratitude to the compassionate Master for saving me from falling into depression! Gratitude to Buddhism in Plain Terms for helping me understand the causes and effects, allowing me to rediscover how to be a better person.
In Book 2 Chapter 46 of Buddhism in Plain Terms, Master Lu teaches us that learning Buddhism means facing reality and then transcending it, because without facing reality, we cannot transcend it. For example, when my child mistreats me, I must face the reality of his behavior towards me. I need to transcend it, not take it to heart, and understand that this is the karmic debt I owe from past lives. It’s not that my child is bad, but rather, it’s my own shortcomings. Why didn’t I do more good deeds in my past lives? When anything happens, there are both good and bad aspects. I truly realize that everything is my own fault, that I have let down my child. If I continue to physically discipline my child, wouldn’t I be accumulating more karmic debts on top of the old ones I haven’t repaid?
I have made vows to recite the Eighty-Eight Buddhas Great Repentance, repenting for my own offenses against and harm to my son. He may already be among the best of the troubled ones, as I have witnessed many others who are in more dire situations, which makes me realize the fragility of life and the impermanence of the world. I am also grateful to my child for leading me to encounter our Dharma Door, allowing me to understand causes and effects, and to earnestly study Buddhism in Plain Terms, from which I have benefited greatly. It has also enabled me to learn to reflect upon myself.
Master Lu teaches that those aspiring to change their destiny must first address their faults, as these faults are the root cause of all suffering. Human ignorance leads to self-inflicted suffering. When a person is ignorant and lacks understanding, he will endure suffering, but once he gain understanding, suffering will cease. Practicing Buddhism involves rectifying one’s behavior.
I made vows to the Bodhisattva:
1. I vow to refrain from taking life and to maintain a vegetarian diet for life.
2. I vow to help my child release 50,000 fish.
3. I vow to help my child recite 500 Little Houses for his karmic creditors, 10,000 times each of the Mantra to Untie Karmic Knots, the Amitabha Pure Land Rebirth Mantra, and the Heart Sutra.
Since I started practicing Buddhism, there have been remarkable improvements in various aspects on my child. Initially needing assistance to climb stairs, he can now run independently. From barely speaking to now being able to imitate speech and engage in simple conversations, he has developed conscious and autonomous language skills. Once, while riding the elevator, I asked him to press the button, and he did. We asked him if he had pressed the wrong button. Surprisingly, he was able to lift his head to observe both the button he pressed and the numbers displayed as the elevator moved. Then, confidently, he said, “Correct!” This small change brought joy to our entire family for a long time!
At the age of eight, he finally gained the ability to manage his own bodily functions. After a year of observation, he now consciously goes to the restroom independently (previously, regardless of the methods used—such as squatting, sitting, timing, using verbal cues, pictures, gestures, etc.—he would either wet himself or soil his clothes). The frequency and intensity of self-harming behaviors, such as hitting his head and biting his hands, have decreased. He is now consciously self-regulating, saying “I don’t want to hit myself anymore, I can’t hit.” Each small change fills me with immense gratitude and relief.
I used to be extremely persistent, clinging to hope like a drowning person grasping at a straw, expecting my child to recover quickly. Now I understand that Rome wasn’t built in a day, so it’s impossible to eliminate problems in a short period of time. If progress doesn’t come in 1 year, then it might take 2, 3, or even 5 years. Miracles arise from the cumulative efforts and perseverance of every moment, every second, every day. Quantity change eventually leads to quality change. The Bodhisattva doesn’t intervene the workings of karma. Instead, we rely on the teachings from Master Lu, such as making vows, reciting Buddhist scriptures, releasing animals, repentance, and studying Buddhism in Plain Terms, to eliminate karmic obstacles. We focus on cultivating without worrying about the harvest.
I have transitioned from being worried, confused, helpless, and filled with resentment to embracing acceptance of my child and cultivating gratitude. I am grateful that my son led me to encounter such a wonderful Buddhist practice. My heartfelt gratitude to the Bodhisattva and to Master Lu! Without encountering you in this lifetime, I would have never comprehended the true essence of Buddhism: the power of learning Buddhism and nurturing one’s mind to transform one’s life and shape destiny…
Without encountering you, I might still be blaming the heavens and the earth, never realizing what I had done wrong, and thinking I was righteous. I would still be lost in endless confusion, exhausted in body and mind, and suffering immensely.
When I am deeply convinced within, I am no longer lost, I understand how to change my mindset, and I know how to resolve issues using the law of cause and effect and conditions. I understand that all phenomena are created by the mind and I practice introspection.
Master Lu once enlightened:
“When you are like a pillar, others revolve around you.
When you have a solution, others won’t be able to exploit your vulnerabilities.
When you look inward, everything becomes clear.
When you blame others, you drive yourself insane.”
In this world,
There is no right or wrong, only cause and effect;
There is no good or bad, only differentiation;
There is no yes or no, only attachment.
To learn from the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva to spread Dharma and save sentient beings, I presented my Buddhism experiences. May Guan Yin Bodhisattva bless me and help me turn my propagation into merits and virtues. I hope my propagation can form positive connections with all sentient beings, transform the right ones extensively, and awaken more beings.
Gratitude to Namo Sakyamuni Buddha!
Gratitude to the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva!
Gratitude to all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas from ten directions and three periods of time!
Gratitude to the Dharma protectors!
Gratitude to the selfless, altruistic, and benevolent Master Jun Hong Lu!
If there is anything that is not rational or in line with the truth in the presentation, I pray for forgiveness from Namo Sakyamuni Buddha, the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, and Dharma protectors.
I would appreciate my fellow Buddhist practitioners’ critique and correction! I, not my fellow Buddhist practitioners, will be responsible for my own karma! Gratitude and Namaste!
Buddhist practitioner: Qing Jing
Posted: 2024-03-28 Thursday 20:44
Translator: Frank
Published: 2024-04-02
Source: Message board of Master Lu’s blog
Statement by translator
The story was translated from Chinese into English by meaning, not word by word. If there is anything that is not rational or in line with the true meaning of the Chinese version, I pray for forgiveness from the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, Dharma protectors and Master Jun Hong Lu.
Propagation
It would be greatly appreciated if you would forward this presentation to all sentient beings you know, sick or healthy. You will accumulate immeasurable merits and virtues. Saving a life is more meritorious than building a seven-floor pagoda!
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原文如下：
八岁了，生活无法自理的孩子，终于能够自己如厕！
感恩南无释迦牟尼佛
感恩南无大慈大悲救苦救难广大灵感观世音菩萨摩诃萨
感恩十方三世一切诸佛菩萨及龙天护法菩萨
感恩恩师卢军宏台长
感恩师兄们
我是因为孩子而接触佛法的。孩子28个月刚学会走路，不说话，会叫爸爸妈妈。听老一辈的人说有些孩子就是各方面晚，能听到会发音就没事。刚好周围也有三个邻居说他们的孩子也是比较晚，到4岁才会走路。那时愚痴也想着长大了就好了。直到有次带孩子去医院体检，跟医生说孩子的情况，医生说得带孩子去大医院检查一下才行。去当地市医检查了，医生说是脑瘫，去广医二院的医生说是发育迟缓。去妇幼医院说是脑部发育不良。
不管检查结果怎样，最终就是做感统语训方面的康复。那时候还是一种侥幸的心里，想着等孩子上学了和小朋友多相处就好了。当孩子到幼儿园后就开始有打小朋友打自己咬自己的行为。几乎天天咬手，严重时咬到手都淤青。天天去接他我都心惊胆战，天天被老师投诉不是打自己就是打小朋友。孩子也不会表达，被三家幼儿园委婉的劝退。那时候天天康复中心和幼儿园跑，医生和康复老师说的办法都试了，中医针灸西医开的药都吃了，到孩子6岁大小便还不能自理。
我觉得自己的孩子永远都好不了了。身边很多人就觉得我想太多，孩子长大就会好起来。事情的发生最难的是接受，孩子有打头咬自己的行为。我看到他这些行为我倍感压力和无助。自己生气的时候看到孩子这个咬手打头打胸口的行为我有时候控制不了自己的情绪还会打他。在这种长期性的压抑下，我要么动不动就发脾气，然后又特别后悔特别自责；要么就一直想哭，一句话一件事我就想不通就想哭。然后失眠，我觉得自己随时都会崩溃。这样的情绪孩子痛苦我自己也痛苦。去看了心理医生说让我最好吃药，不然这样下去会得抑郁症。看完心理医生后我知道医生不能帮我解决这些问题。
我想到了去寺院拜菩萨。在听到播放《礼佛大忏悔文》的时候我的眼泪就不自主的流。那时还不知道是《礼佛大忏悔文》，我心里就祈求菩萨救救我的孩子吧。我真的不知道怎么办了！感恩大慈大悲观世音菩萨寻声救苦，听到了我痛苦和无奈的求助声。不久，我在手机里就看到师兄发师父的看图腾视频。我加了师兄的微信请教了他。后来他就把计数器经书念佛机还有资料全部免费邮寄给我了。
我就开始念经，看《白话佛法》。看到在《白话佛法》1-37 “无所住心，修正自己的行为”：当人最苦最无助的时候，佛法就已经进入心中了，就是说为什么当一个人最苦的时候，也是最能信佛的时候。这个人最困苦的时候，绝望的时候，才能一下子放下。因为当一个人最苦的时候，是那种痛心的苦，痛到了他的本性之后，他真正的佛性才能出来，才能接受真正的佛法。当一个人好的时候，有钱的时候，什么苦都没有的时候，一般是不会好好修心的。当一个人最苦恼的时候，最无助的时候，你去帮助他，最能让他归入佛门。因为无助了才会求到心灵深处的佛。
师父的话真的是句句入心呀。如果不是遇到佛法，不敢想象我现在会是什么样子。感恩恩师师父救了快抑郁症的我！感恩《白话佛法》让浑浑噩噩的我知因懂果，让我重新学会做人。
在《白话佛法》2-46师父说我们学佛就是要面对现实，然后要超越现实，因为你不面对现实，就无法超越现实。比如，孩子对我不好，我要面对孩子对自己不好的现实。我来超越他，不把他当回事情，觉得这是自己前世所欠的，这是自己的业债。不是他不好，而是我不好。前世自己为什么不多做点好事呢?任何事情在发生的时候，有好也有坏。我真正意识到一切都是自己的错，是我对不起孩子，如果我继续打孩子我不是旧业未还又添新债吗？
我许愿了《礼佛大忏悔文》忏悔自己对不起和伤害孩子的业障。我的孩子已经是坏中最好的了，因为我看到过很多更加严重的孩子，让我感受生命的脆弱和世间的无常。也是感恩孩子让我遇到了我们法门，让我知因懂果，好好学习《白话佛法》，非常受益，也能让自己学会转念懂得反思自己。师父说想改变自己命运的人，先要改毛病，身上的毛病就是你一切痛苦的根源。人的无知造成自己的痛苦。当一个人无知、什么都不懂的时候他才会痛苦，懂了就不痛苦了。修行就是修正自己的行为。
我向菩萨许愿
1.终身不杀生，终身吃全素；
2.许愿帮助孩子放生5万条鱼；
3.许愿帮助孩子念500张组合，1万遍《解结咒》，1万遍《往生咒》，1万遍《心经》。
孩子从接触佛法时候的走楼梯都要扶着现在能跑步了，从不怎么开口说话到仿说到现在有意识有自主语言出来，能简单对话。有次坐电梯让他按电梯，他按了。我们问他有没有按错。他竟然能抬头观察按的数字和电梯运行的数字，然后自信的说：对的！这点变化就让我们一家都开心好久！
在8岁大小便终于能自理。观察一年了，是有意识的自己去厕所大小便（之前就是不管你用什么办法，比如蹲厕坐厕，定时定点，语言图片手势，提示他…..他要么尿湿，要么拉在裤子里）。从撞头咬手经常咬到淤青到现在咬的次数在减少，力度也都在减轻，有意识的在自我调控。说我不要打自己了，不能打。每一个细小的变化都让我倍感欣慰。
我之前非常执着，就像抓住一根救命稻草一样，各种期待孩子快快好起来。现在我知道冰冻三尺非一日之寒，所以不可能短时间内就能消除。一年不行就两年，三年，五年，奇迹都是在于每天的每一分每一秒的努力坚持累积出来的。量变达到质变。菩萨不动因果，是靠师父教我们的许愿、念经、放生、忏悔以及学习《白话佛法》来消业障。只管耕耘不问收获。
我从担忧茫然无助充满怨气到学会接受孩子，学会感恩。感恩孩子让我遇到了这么好的佛法，感恩菩萨！ 感恩师父！如果我今生没有遇见您，我永远不会懂得，佛法的真谛：原来，学佛修心可以改变活法，改变命运……
如果我没有遇见您，我可能仍然在怨天怨地，永远不知道自己做错了什么，还以为自己很善良。仍然在万般地“想不通”，弄得身心疲惫，痛苦万分。
当我内心深信坚定的时候，我不再迷茫，懂得转念，遇事懂得用因果和因缘来化解，懂得一切唯心造，往内观。
师父说过：
当你是柱子的时候别人就围着你转。
当你有办法的时候别人就拿你没办法。
一切往自己内心看你就通了。
一切往别人身上找你就疯了。
这世间
没有对与错，只有因果在；
没有好与坏，只有分别在；
没有是与非，只有执着在。
今天分享就到这里，我学习观世音菩萨的大慈大悲精神弘法利生，所以现身说法。感恩观世音菩萨慈悲保佑把我的分享转成功德，希望我的分享能够广结善缘，广度有缘，度化更多的有缘众生！
再次感恩南无释迦牟尼佛！感恩南无大慈大悲救苦救难广大灵感观世音菩萨摩诃萨！感恩十方三世一切诸佛菩萨及龙天护法金刚菩萨！感恩弘法度众舍身忘我的恩师慈父卢军宏台长！
分享过程中如有不如理不如法之处，请南无释迦牟尼佛慈悲原谅，请南无大慈大悲观世音菩萨慈悲原谅，请十方三世诸佛菩萨和龙天护法菩萨慈悲原谅，请师兄们批评指正。我自己的业障自己背，不让师兄们背！感恩 合十
分享人：清静
来自：师父博客留言板
2024年3月28日 周四 20:44
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